What holds us back from EXPRESSing our truth? Repressing our thoughts... yes AND what about when we don't know what to say? When we are so blown back by what we experience that we are unable to KNOW how we FEEL in order to EXPRESS in the moment. That for me has been a BIG SHOULDA-ing.
And, Albert Einstein said; “Knowledge is everything, anything else is just information" ... we must know the SOUND of the thing within ourselves before we can EXPRESS it. So, of course we don't know how to respond...it's new information. Remaining quiet is a gift. Words mean nothing, unless they do.