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Updated: Feb 5, 2023

Do you know how to break the behavior you use to protect your heart?

The heart has the most significant electromagnetic resting frequency in our being, meaning it is freaking sensitive and powerful ~ it feels and knows the truth of everything! When we are young, this heightened awareness and felt intelligence coming through the heart space could be stunted and dulled by things from gestation or adoption, which one might think is unknown to a fetus or baby. Other examples include parents ignoring, shaming, directing, or redirecting their children's thoughts, feelings, or emotional needs.

Behaviors that could indicate a traffic jam to breaking open the heart layers are unique to each of us. Some talk insistently to justify and express their point of view or circumstances when it could be their self-belief is lacking. Others entertain with a joke or sarcasm to make themselves feel more important than others when it could be they feel small. Or, challenge yourself to be open-hearted with another to prove your worthiness, but you don't vibe with that person? Is the real issue wanting to be overcome to listen and honor one's own truths first ~ you don't relate with them.

What if I said the thing you want the most in life is the thing you are avoiding, and identifying that thing that will break open your heart?

What is it that you want?

Perhaps coming out of the micro conversation like finger-pointing and into the macro view of "what you want to receive" is the sweet spot to nurture the heart space and create safety for the earth element within the human energy system.

How does one get past the story or circumstances to understand and self-soothe so one can know the soul-level desire? Bypassing one's felt process to logically think, "What is it that I want here?" is not what I am suggesting. Questions of "how" and "when" are best when your energy system is ready to open and are supported by a meditative process that is the foundation of healthy mind-consciousness:

1. Notice when you are thinking thoughts or having an emotional experience.

"There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind- you are the one who hears it."

quote by: The Untethered Soul

2. You have now noticed yourself in active emotions or thoughts as a witness; say "hello" to those emotions/thoughts ~ and support them by acknowledgment. Say, "thank you, I see you XYZ."

3. Now consciously focus or direct yourself to what it is you want/desire. You can also notice what is "true" in this new moment. examples are: what do you see with your eyes, what are your new thoughts, what do you feel in your body, is something happening around you?

Three easy steps to a new energetic viewpoint!

Please note that this exercise is an ongoing process; like building muscle, we will need to keep repeating the exercise. As you do so, your conscious abilities will become stronger. Eventually, the new actions/ways will replace the old behavioral loop.

Further, what we want will not always be met by those who have wronged us. What's that saying?; "hurt people, hurt people." If we want others to admit to their wrongdoing, we might never heal because we look outside ourselves for soothing or answers. Instead, please know peace will come with time and with forgiveness or understanding that comes from within.

When I do this, my heart amplifies itself, and new layers of self-realization reveal themselves to me, within me, and then to those around me.

The above art is created by two artists I recently found while walking along the beach in Santa Barbara: @_flowerbull and @flo.ting on Instagram or

Serendipitously, I had just (metaphorically)broken my rib cage(diagram) to unlock another layer of my heart space during Polarity Therapy.

I LOVE THIS WORK: Polarity Therapy!

I am always surprised by every session and how energy moves through it. Every session is unique and demonstrates the energetic layering of the self, making one new repeatedly.

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